The “My Girlfriend Isn’t Hungry” Trend Is Not Okay
Girlfriends around the country are collectively rolling their eyes at restaurants’ latest sexist trend. Retro diner Mama D’s, of Little Rock, AK, decided to bring the ’50s to their patrons in more than just their decor and food. They’re serving it in their attitude towards women. The family-owned restaurant is the latest to go viral for adding a menu option that calls out women who dare to eat the fries, wings, or onion rings from their partner’s plate.
Underneath their delicious-sounding traditional Southern sides (we’ll take the cole slaw, fried squash, and mashed potatoes, thank you very much) is a special option titled “My Girlfriend Is Not Hungry.” For $4.25, you can add extra fries to your order, along with two fried chicken wings or three fried cheese sticks. A photo of the menu went viral last week, and the internet immediately took sides over whether this was a genius idea or yet more daily sexism.
Apparently, women like to tell their partners that they aren’t hungry, and then steal food.
Men are not taking it well:
Not well at all:
But women are also calling out hungry girlfriends:
Of course, this isn’t even the first time a menu has hit Twitter with a sexist twist:
Another restaurant, the Tipsy Coyote in Scottsdale, AZ, has taken it even further, renaming their entire salad section “My Girlfriend’s Not Hungry” — as though women only want salads on dates.
Unfortunately, it seems like these girlfriend haters haven’t considered what this trend actually says about how we judge women’s eating habits. The theory is that when women go on dates, they tend to eat less because consuming food is somehow seen as unladylike and unattractive.
A study released in 2009 actually confirmed that women tend to eat less when they’re around men. They found that when two women ate together, they consumed an average of 670 calories each, but when a woman ate with one man, she ate just 540 calories. And eating with a group of men had an even more noticeable result: an average of just 450 calories for each woman at the table.
As Eater points out, society is quick to call out women who aren’t super slim, but they’ll also judge us as boring for turning down a burger.
But if we do order a burger, it always comes with a side of judgement.
Men don’t seem to get how much judgement women face for feeling pressure around our food choices:
We’re expected and pressured to be thin, while also eating burgers whenever men demand it.
But on the flip side, if you are a woman who is fat and dares to enjoy food, you’re shamed even more:
It’s not okay. Not okay at all.
These mixed messages go beyond menus. They’re even in some of our favorite TV shows.
Honestly, we don’t even know what we’re supposed to do at this point.
Just before our heads explode, it seems that some men get the struggle:
The upside of all this is that it makes a great date filter. If your date has a problem with sharing their fries, or tries to shame you for ordering a salad or burger or whatever else you want, you know there won’t be a date number two. So you may as well eat as much of their food as you like!