Prenuptial agreements between spouses are usually created to split wealth and assets in the event of a divorce. However, one man ordered his future wife to lose her future pregnancy weight within their prenup, and she took to the internet for advice. And um — listen. It’s not too late to call the whole thing off, girl.
The woman, who goes by u/katintheAM on Reddit, said that her to-be husband, a neurosurgeon who has been “wonderfully successful in his field,” included a few “odd clauses” in their prenup, which, by the way, is being handled by the woman’s future father-in-law lawyer. Yikes.
“He put in a clause that stated that I have to lose any weight I gain after child birth, at least 30lbs of it in the first year following childbirth,” katintheAM wrote in her February post.
However, that isn’t even the weirdest part of her fiancé’s prenup request.
“The oddest of them all to me is the compensation for children clause,” she continued.
“I am not sure if I interpreted this correctly so anyone may correct me, but in the prenup my fiancé mentioned that for every child I have for him, I get a chunk of money, which to me doesn’t sound legal but maybe it is?”
What in the freaking world? Check out her entire post:
My fiance(M36) put some weird clauses in our prenup and I(F29) am confused
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“My main question is are all these clauses enforceable in court? What makes any of them invalid? I haven’t signed yet and would like to get insight from someone other than my future in law as I feel he may mislead me if his son were to benefit from it.”
Hmm…you think?
Obviously, the bride-to-be came to the right place. And we’re glad she’s questioning the weirdo prenup instead of just going along with it.
Reddit went to work, letting her know that these two pregnancy-related requests are completely absurd.
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If she decides to sign and agree to his terms, she should clearly set her own counter stipulations, as this Reddit user suggested.
“What if he cheats? What about his weight? (Men gain weight [too]!)”
True that!
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Although including her own terms may make her feel better, the back-and-forth can get mean really quickly.
In our opinion, it’s better to nip his terms in the bud now rather than exacerbate the entire situation.
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And having his father handle the prenup is also a huge no-no.
A third, neutral party should be brought in ASAP.
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Bringing a matrimonial lawyer into the equation is a must.
That is really the best way to receive clarity on all pregnancy compensation, weight loss, and infidelity issues.
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However, including weight regulations in a prenup is just bizarre, no matter how you slice it.
Postpartum weight loss is not easy for some women, and she should absolutely not feel shamed into dropping at least 30 pounds after delivery.
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And um — why 30?
Just because that is the average amount a woman gains during pregnancy does not mean that is the universal number of pounds all women gain.
The bride-to-be may not gain that much, or she may gain more than 30. Who’s to say?
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The bride-to-be further explained to one respondent that her fiancé included how and when her weight gain and loss would be tracked her pregnancy.
She would weigh herself the day she finds out she is pregnant, then again at the peak of her pregnancy.
“The difference would be the weight I have to lose a year from the birth date of my child, then I’d have to weigh myself again and confirm that I did lose that weight,” she wrote.
That’s a lot of weighing in.
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But, come on, dude. It’s not that simple.
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If the fiancé is truly adamant about his future wife losing her hypothetical baby weight, then perhaps there should be more added to the prenup to protect katintheAM.
“I’d want a counter clause saying that he needs to provide childcare and a personal trainer, nutritionist and chef to come to your home while you’re trying to meet his unrealistic expectations,” one Redditor replied.
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The general consensus seems to be that the bride should obtain her own lawyer before signing anything.
The water is much too murky to just dive in.
However, if we were the ones seeking help on this matter, we would probably just pull a Julia Roberts and “runaway bride” this entire situation. Sorry.
No man — especially your future husband — should ever make you feel guilty about gaining weight during pregnancy.
It’s a totally normal phenomenon because, you know, you’re creating and carrying life, after all. Jeez…
